A friend of mine posted the following on her Facebook wall this morning and it popped up in my News Feed. I typically can’t stand when people vent or start drama through their status updates, so I tend to tune out about 90% of posts in my News Feed. However, the girl who posted this doesn’t usually post those types of things, so I took a moment to read it.
Growing up, my dad always taught my sister and I to be a leader, not a follower; To be the change instead of waiting for things to change; And to hang around people we want to be like, who are positive influences on us, and who lift us up. I’ve always done my best to follow his words of wisdom, and seeing the post below reinforced everything he taught me:
The Front Row
“Life is a theater…Invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships/friendships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention. Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which encourage and which discourage? Which ones always have drama, or don’t truly understand, know, or appreciate you? The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life. You cannot change the people around you, but you can change the people you’re around.”
– Author Unknown
Often times I find myself struggling saying “no” to friends, feeling guilty for not being able to attend every outing and get-together, and hating feeling like I’m letting someone down. This statement really helps put things in perspective. We are all in control of our own lives, and we only have one life to live. Do things that make you happy and make you feel good. My mom once said, “The people who love you won’t get mad if you say ‘no,’ and the ones that do don’t really matter.” Sounds harsh, but it is true.
So, take it with a grain of salt or live by it … either way, I hope it helps open your eyes a bit and makes you stop and think. All I know is that in fifty years, I want to look back on my life and have no regrets, and enjoy a cup of coffee or a glass of wine with those in my front row.